Successful First Date
Why do guys always equate not scoring with a girl on the first date -- even a blind date -- to losing a video game? When I overhear guys discussing the hot date they went on the night before, I can't help but laugh when they tell their friends "I was so close, but I didn't get laid." This is usually followed by an extremely sad look on the friends' faces, followed by them shaking their heads ; the kind of solemn response to witnessing someone being run over by a truck.
Just because a girl is willing to give you a fighting chance to show what a great guy you are on a first date (as supposed to the 3 seconds you will get in a club, coffee shop, or on the street), that doesn't mean that she wants to see the tattoo on your inner left thigh. She probably doesn't even want to know what kind of underwear you are wearing, so it's likely that you should forget about having sex on the first date.
Testing The Waters
First dates are very fragile affairs; two strangers unite to test out their compatibility. When women are on first dates with men, they analyze every little thing their date does. After all, the pressure is usually on the men, so the way they handle this high stress situation is an indication of their characters. Does he fidget? Does he sweat? Does he remain calm and collected?
So how do guys ensure they don't completely ruin a first date? It's very simple: let the women feel comfortable. If women are comfortable, they will relax and be more at ease within conversations. This way, if you accidentally say something insulting, step on her foot or forget to hold the door, she will be more inclined to forgive the mishap.
Steps To Success
A good place for a first date is a comedy club. You find yourselves in a setting with lots of people and you can easily think of things to do should awkward moments of silence arise. By the end of the show you will both be smiling, which assures that you'll be in good moods for the rest of the night. The show also gives you something to talk about. The biggest advantage of a comedy show is that the jokes your date laughs at can reveal a lot about her personality. You should know that a guy who laughs extra hard at jokes that degrade women, immediately has 3 strikes against him...so dater beware.
Be Real
A guy should always act natural on a first date; don't pretend to be someone you're not. Don't boast either because it gives the impression that you're arrogant. Try to keep the conversationsimple by avoiding debates about religion or politics. Don't impose or get too personal; whatever a girl wants to tell you, she will reveal on her own. Remember, if you make her feel comfortable around you, you will surely get a second date.
I recommend that you let the girl speak as well. It allows you to get to know a lot of things about her without revealing too much about yourself. A mysterious, aloof man is very attractive. There is no better compliment for a man than a woman telling her friend I had the most wonderful conversation with this guy last night, yet I still don't know anything about him. He's a great listener though . This means that you not only entertained her that night, but you've got her begging for more.
Have fun on your first date and don't push her if she says no to sex, a ride home, paying for her billor she will never date you again. There is nothing worse than a pushy man.
